Boost Your Self-Esteem Month

Beautifully Enough is my Mission, Thirty-One is my Career! 

Did you know that February is Boost your Self-Esteem Month? Women and girls of all ages need to know that they are beautiful and enough!!

Join us to help empower girls and women this month as we mark the sixth anniversary of Thirty-One Gives during International Boost Your Self-Esteem Month! 

When you shop with Thirty-One Gifts, you’re not just buying a bag. You’re supporting an independent businesswoman and helping her reach her goals and dreams. We’re proud to offer high-quality, fashionable and functional products that make life easier for our Customers and their families, along with personalization designs to make each tote, purse, wallet and home décor item mean even more. 

As a company, we are committed to donating approximately 5% of net sales this year in product and cash to organizations that share our mission to empower women. This means that shopping with us is one more way you can become part of the giving heart of Thirty-One.

Ask me how you can shop or help!!

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You are Distracted

“Disorder and Distractions are Death” .... not an exact quote, but a concept that screamed at me through my earbuds from an audio book last week. Five weeks into 2018, and it has been a challenging year already.  I started this year with big goals and the specific plans to achieve them, and then as often the case, the distractions came. One thing after another... I don't have to laundry list them, because I  am sure you have your own set of distractions fighting for your attention too!!


My mantra has been “feed your focus and starve your distractions” and it’s honestly been something I’ve had to remind myself daily this year! And through the struggle I have still found success in my goals physically, personally and professionally, but it has not been without a fight.

Here are a few practical things that worked for me:

Make your plan and work your plan FIRST!

Every environment is full of potential distraction whether you work from your kitchen table or the corner office. Creating order in your day is the best weapon to overcome the disorder of distraction. If you have a "must do first" list and you actually work that list first, you will make progress! This is the same for fitness goals or personal development goals too! I have a list of 10 tasks that I make myself do every day, no matter what!! The rest is bonus. What are those tasks for you? If you don't take the time to figure it out, you will constantly be pulled to the next shiny project or idea and will only make scattered and distracted progress toward your goals.  Creating order in your days will lead to creating victory!


Let it go!

A lot of what distracts us are worries, fears, unknowns, and things beyond our control. But having no control over the outcome of these areas is a good thing! Acknowledge them, write them down, and then release them. You dwelling on past challenges or the future unknowns is sucking energy away, creating disorder in your mind and distracting you from your purpose today.  Your brain is only 2% of your body but uses 20% or your energy. What are you focusing that energy on? Yesterday? Tomorrow? How about TODAY?


Get in alignment.

Something I ask myself often is, "Does this align with my goals?" For example, I  love wine and would drink it every night if I could. However, 500+ extra calories and waking up dehydrated every morning, does not align with my fitness goals.  But, enjoying a glass of Old Vine Zinfandel on the porch with my husband does align with my goal of having a connected and passionate marriage. So, sometimes wine is a YES, and sometimes it is a NO.  Only you know the real answer, the key is being willing to ask yourself the question!! It’s never too late to say NO to all the things pulling you away from your goals, purpose, and destiny and say YES to the things that bring energy and progress. Throw off everything that so easily entangles, and run the race set before you.... Victory is waiting.

This year still has the potential to be an amazing for you and for me if we remove distraction and disorder and focus!!

 I'd love to hear from you! How do you overcome distractions?

 Comment below, email me or share on FB!

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You are not Perfect, and that is OK.

You are not Perfect, and that is ok.

You Are Not Perfect…. Four words spoken in the middle of a conversation that hit me like an arrow between the eyes.

Think of the different ways you can emphasize that same sentence.

YOU are not perfect.

You ARE not perfect.

You are NOT perfect.

You are not PERFECT!

It was like looking in the mirror and seeing someone else’s face. Deep down I knew I wasn’t perfect, but subconsciously I thought is as at least doing a pretty good job making everyone else think I was. The fact was, I wasn’t. I was viewing myself through the lens of intention and not the lens of fact. I was failing.  I was over committed, under connected, and inwardly struggling. I wasn’t as successful as I thought. My house wasn’t as clean as I thought. My body wasn’t as fit as I thought. And I wasn’t as impactful as I thought.

Striving for perfection is like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in it. With a lot of effort, it can appear full but there is constant need for more—to do more, try more, be more! And that leak eventually leave the bucket empty and unfulfilled.

It wasn’t until I kicked the bucket to the curb, and said “ENOUGH” to striving for perfection, enough to needing external validation, enough to craving accomplishment to feel worthy, that I can rest in imperfection gladly and feel full, whole, and enough.

I learned that I can’t be perfect, nor do I need to be. I can do my best and I can aim at success and growth and accomplishment, but my worth is no longer handcuffed to my perfectionism.

Honnestly, this is still a struggle and a process. I recently fell back into that perfectionism pattern and I lost something valuable in that experience. I was hyper focused on creating the perfect homecoming for my husband who was away traveling, that I ran around doing all the errands, I cleaned the house, I made is favorite dessert, and even left him a small gift to find upon his return. But I was so worried about on creating that perfect scene that I had lost my focus in the process. Was I doing all this for him or for me to look like an amazing wife. I love my husband tremendously, but in this specific occasion, I had let my perfectionism take over.

Brene Brown says that perfectionism at it’s core is not about striving to be your best, it is about trying to earn approval and acceptance.  She also says that healthy striving is self-focused on becoming your best, whereas perfectionism is other focused and more concerned with what others will think.

So when I fall into these patterns I have to ask,

Why am I doing this? What is my motive?

Am I doing this for me or for others?

I don’t want to be perfect anymore. I want to be me. 

Authentic, Messy, Growing and Beautifully Enough.